Thursday, April 30, 2009
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Monday, April 27, 2009
Friday, April 24, 2009
First, they review the baby dossiers and make sure there are no issues with them. We are told that they then count up all of the baby dossiers that are eligible for matching that month and then look to see how far this stack will go in the parent dossiers without sending out a partial day, and they pull all of those parent files. That is the likely cut-off date. Sometimes something happens and they don't get this far. Sometimes something happens and they get farther.
Next they match orphanages up with agencies. This orphanage has six babies, this agency has six families. These two orphanages are in the same province and have a total of 12 babies, this agency has 12 families. When they are through with this is when (I believe) some agencies start to get information about the cut-off date. Or at least it is when they used to start getting information.
And then they start matching individual babies to individual families. At some point during this part of the process most agencies used to hear from their person in the matching room to let them know how many referrals they will be receiving and from what province(s). Some agencies shared this information with their clients. Some chose not to. Recently I’ve gotten the feeling that many agencies are still getting this information but they are being given orders by the CCAA to not share this information with the families.
The next question that comes up is generally how the matchers match families and babies. I’ve heard from several people who have had the opportunity to speak with someone who works in the matching room. The various conversations seem to all agree that they first look for something that stands out: a matching birthday, a baby who looks a lot like a parent, or a baby who likes music and a parent who teaches music. Several matching people have stated they match by bone structure of the baby’s face and the parent’s faces (this is why they need our passport photos, so they can compare our mug shot with the baby’s mug shot). Some have stated that they used Chinese astrology, also. Once they’ve matched the obvious matches they then start to look at things like age of child requested. The age requested is not a priority for them, they feel they are matching families and not filling orders. And I have to say that they’ve done a wonderful job matching us and our Big Girl, and now I trust they will do an excellent job matching us with her little sister.
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Many have asked what is the current wait time and why is it taking so long. It is interesting to me that has of late I have had several conversations with people that have thought that China had completely stopped allowing children to be adopted internationally and that we would never be receiving our child. For the record, since we started our adoption journey, China has never stopped allowing their children to be adopted internationally. However, as we know...they have slowed things down to a snails pace. When we officially started this process back in September 2005 the wait time was 7-8 months after your dossier was logged in. Once our dossier was officially logged in March 2006 the wait time was 11-12 months. After that point things greatly changed and we watched the wait grow 1-2 months every single month. During that summer in 2006, we contemplated and prayed about whether or not to pursue an interim adoption with another country. But everyone thought that things would speed up and that China would never allow the wait to grow too much past one year. In the history of the program(to that point), the longest anyone has ever waited was 15 months and after getting to that point China brought the wait back down to 5-6 months. Needless to say, we didn't pursue another adoption that summer. The following summer in 2007, we again thought about pursuing an interim adoption. Once again, all authorities on the subject thought that things would approve and that the adoption would happen within the year. At this point, China also made a rule that they didn't want any other children (through pregnancy or other adoption) brought into the family within one year of the Chinese adoption. If we did we might need to put our dossier on hold. Once again not wanting to jeopardize the adoption, we did not pursue any other adoption. Suffice it to say this adoption has been with in a year of taking place for almost three years.
Our agency, AWAA recently posted to their blog regarding the wait time. They gave a pretty thorough list of reasons why. I think the only ones they missed were politics, saving "face" and the Olympics. Here is their post:The current wait from LID to referral is 37-38 months at all agencies and increasing. This represents the wait time for families who just received a referral in April and who could potentially receive a referral next month. The wait time is calculated from the Log in Date when a dossier is sent to China, to the date that the referral is received. For families with LID dates after March 7, 2006, the wait time trend continues to increase half a month to a full month each month. No one can accurately predict how long the China wait time will become or when it may start to decrease due to a large number of unknown factors, such as the following:
• the number of infants that will be available for adoption and paper ready within the upcoming year
• the number of domestic adoptions that will occur within China this year
• the number of families from around the world who have login dates between the last referral LID and today
• the number of families who will withdraw from the China adoption process due to the increased wait time
• the number of families who will adopt special needs children and will no longer have their dossier waiting in the non-special needs line
• the number of families who will switch programs during their process and no longer adopt from China
Families are encouraged to calculate their wait time as a projected estimation, knowing there is no way to predict the actual wait time for each family. The wait time changes as it is based on the number of LID’s from around the world and the number of referrals that are paper-ready each month.
Monday, April 20, 2009
Thanks to our good friends, The Lowell's, taking Camden overnight, Doug & I had the opportunity for a little get away. The first one in more than 5 1/2 years. Things have been very busy around here lately (and will soon become busier) so we welcomed the opportunity to reconnect a bit as well as have a little belated celebration of our 16 anniversary which took place in January. We had purchased a night at a B&B in Amado, back in December at a charity fundraiser. We were pleasantly surprised that they put us in one of their nicest rooms. We had a wonderful bed, jacuzzi tub, flat screen tv and a little fridge. The room was even cute for southwest decor (sorry to you lovers of all things southwest...that's not me!) Anyway, the room was prime for relaxing and reconnecting and we took advantage of it.
Here's our little B&B along with a few of the beautiful surounding flowers:
This is what "they" think it looked like way back when:
At the mission there was a sweet little old woman, doing a traditional tortilla making demononstration. Come to find out she has been doing this here at the mission for 26 years. It was so cute...as she was making her tortilla's (along with her yummy beans by the way) she was doling out all sorts of wisdom. Unfortuately, we had to get it second hand as we don't speak Spanish. But it was wonderful just the same and we were able to chat with two more couples in the process. The sweet little tortilla lady (and her hubby) have been married for 50 years and here is a few of her words of wisdom:
The most damage you can do (to a relationship) is with your tongue.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Monday, April 13, 2009
Cam was excited about the contents of this egg. You can't really see it but it a General Grievous Croc charm. Cam hasn't seen Star Wars III, but that doesn't stop him from thinking that he's the coolest. What's cooler than a cyborg with four arms and four light sabers???One of our hidden eggs. Yea -yea..there aren't just the pretty pastel ones in our household!
Coloring some eggs while still in our favorite froggy footie jammies:
Friday, April 10, 2009
Monday, April 6, 2009
Thursday, April 2, 2009
The Pillsbury Doughboy died yesterday of a yeast infection and trauma complications from repeated pokes in the belly. He was 71.
Doughboy was buried in a lightly greased coffin. Dozens of celebrities turned out to pay their respects, including Mrs. Butterworth, Hungry Jack, the California Raisins, Betty Crocker, the Hostess Twinkies, and Captain Crunch. The grave site was piled high with flours.
Aunt Jemima delivered the eulogy and lovingly described Doughboy as a man who never knew how much he was kneaded. Doughboy rose quickly in show business, but his later life was filled with turnovers. He was not considered a very smart cookie, wasting much of his dough on half-baked schemes. Despite being a little flaky at times he still was a crusty old man and was considered a positive roll model for millions.
Doughboy is survived by his wife Play Dough, two children, John Dough and Jane Dough, plus they had one in the oven. He is also survived by his elderly father, Pop Tart.
The funeral was held at 3:50 for about 20 minutes.